damned if one does and damned if one doesn't
Definition from Wiktionary, the free dictionary
- (idiomatic) A dilemma where either choice results in a negative outcome.
- If John leaves for New York to follow his career, his father will disinherit him. He's damned if he does and damned if he doesn't.
- Damned if I do and damned if I don't.
- Damned if you do and damned if you don't.