Citations:kinkshame

English citations of kinkshame and kink-shame

Noun: "to mock, shame, or condemn someone for their sexual preferences and fetishes"

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• 2015, Dan Savage, "Savage Love", The Georgia Straight, 22 October - 29 October 2015, page 59:

  […] refrain from kink-shaming yourself the next time you make an underpant perv's day.

• 2016, Peter Tzimos, "You Can Call Me Daddy", Farrago (University of Melbourne), Edition 4 (2016), page 21:

  Honestly, the only thing I really found was that unsurprising amounts of people now have a daddy kink. I kinkshamed all of them in efforts to get them to date me instead; it didn't work.

• 2016, "Smelling Patooey Irks This Spouse", quoted in Dan Savage, "Savage Love", San Antonia Current, 7 December 2016, page 47:

  I do have a problem leaning in for a kiss when his face reeks of some other man's spit. He likes the “lingering scent” – I do not. He says I'm kink-shaming him when I recoil and ask him to go wash his face.

• 2017, "Pissed Off Slut Wife", quoted in Dan Savage, "Savage Love", The Georgia Straight, 26 January - 2 February 2017, page 39:

  But everyone, please stop telling your friends not to kink-shame so that my boyfriend and I can get back to the business of pissing on each other and feeling disgusting about it and horny because of it.

• 2017, Freya Wadlow, "Worm Sex: It's Weirder Than You Think", Grapeshot Magazine (Macquarie University), Issue 6 (2017), page 31:

  Not to kinkshame Mother Nature, but reproduction in the animal kingdom is WILD. From the corkscrew-shaped penis of male ducks to the honey bee's exploding genitals; the dynamic evolution of life on earth has seen the rise of copulation that is both creative and terrifying.

• 2018, David Adams & Alicia Knight, Grace, Volume 1, page 115:

  If heaven gets their motor running that way, I am not about to kinkshame them at all.

• 2018, Nike Izmaylov & Michelle Izmaylov, SOuLD, unnumbered pages:

  "Whatever, though. If you get off at the thought of being a better person than me, I'm not going to kinkshame you."

• 2018, Rebecca Goldstein, "DDLG Ruins the Party Again", Binghampton Review (Binghamton Review), 7 May 2018, page 13:

  This abomination, which stands for "Daddy Dom Little Girl" is essentially pedophilia-lite and is super uncomfortable, abusive, and wildly problematic. Yes, I'm kinkshaming.

• 2018, "Dr. Date", The Minnesota Daily (University of Minnesota), 24 September 2018, page 9:

  Anyway, while I'm not one to kink-shame, anything involving unwilling participants is not a good thing.

• 2015, anonymous, "buzzed", in "baked. buzzed. bored.", The Michigan Daily (The University of Michigan), 21 February 2019, page 48:

  Sorry to kinkshame you 2004, but you did give us Facebook which has become a bit of a problem.

• 2019, Ellie Cahill, Save the Secret Date, unnumbered page:

  "It's not a romantic relationship," he said. "But they are both really really into My Little Pony. In very dark ways."

  I burst into laughter again, letting out a snort. "Oh my god, I think I'm gonna be sick."

  "Don't kink-shame, Mary."

• 2019, Clementine Ford, Boys Will be Boys: Power, Patriarchy and Toxic Masculinity, unnumbered page:

  According to this argument, violent porn isn't necessarily drawn from misogyny but rather from the fact that some people—and yes, that includes women—enjoy BDSM and humiliation, and they shouldn't be kink-shamed for this.

• 2019, Annabel Gat, The Astrology of Love & Sex: A Modern Compatibility Guide, page 273:

  Let them know what your limits are early on if you're worried you might unknowingly kink-shame them, so they'll know, for example, not to let you in on their furry fantasy.

• 2019, Ezra James Fillimore, "A Night At The Theatre: A Night Of Riotous Fun", Orbital (Royal Holloway University of London), Autumn 2019, page 21:

  The Improv Society's rip-roaringly funny sketch centring around "The Magic Flute" ended with a moral lesson that seemed to surprise the actors themselves, rounding out their act with an earnest reminder never to kinkshame.

• 2019, Chaitanya Murali, "Gideon The Ninth by Tamsyn Muir", Mithila: The International Journal of Science Fiction & Fantasy, December 2019, unnumbered page:

  Readers, read what you want to. As long as you know that your real world interests are not the same as what you read, it shouldn't matter. Don't be bullied or kinkshamed into stopping.

• 2020, Hanna Anderson, "Let's Talk About BDSM", Portland State Vanguard (Portland State University), 11 February 2020, page 18:

  Don't kinkshame me, bro.

  While conversations over kink are still stigmatized, jokes about kink are still funny and socially acceptable, so long reinforces the stigma, perpetuating how taboo kink is in society.