Citations:monoamory

English citations of monoamory

• 1992 July 18, Robert D Webber, Moment of poly self-discovery, alt.polyamory, Usenet:

  The other part of this is that my one experiment with monoamory flopped: having promised to live under constraint I found myself slipping and sliding into cheating when means, motive, and opportunity coincided. My then and current main squeeze forgave me[.]

• 1992 August 10, Robert D Webber, poly-wired?, alt.polyamory, Usenet:

  It's _not_ always easy, but then neither are monoamory or nilamory (thank you, Colin Plumb).

• 1993 March 29, Jim Burrows, Monagamy and Polyamory, mutually incompatible?, in alt.polyamory, Usenet:

  So... I would assert that it is not only possible to be monogamous and polyamorous, but really quite sensible an natural. I think that both are very good things, and that a society that teaches you to horde love and to confine, deny and control it has something fundementally wrong with it. I think that there are arguments, even strong ones for sexual monogamy (though not so strong that they are inarguable or intrinsically right for everyone), but that we shouldn't allow those to be confused with arguments for monoamory. In point of fact, monoamory might just be an impossible goal. It is very hard to keep from loving and falling in love.

  JimB.

• 1993 October 17, Anonymous Jones, Polyamorism -- the real theme (was Re: When she tells you she's leaving you, alt.romance, Usenet:

  But my observation is that poly people are among the *most* romantically inclined! It takes a lot of romance to make a dyad (couple) relationship work, and even more to make triads, tetrads and larger groups work. Perhaps there should be an alt.monoamory group to help the poly people understand that the subject is "monogamy" and not "romance".

• 1994 February 8, bbr...@gmuvax.gmu.edu, What is love? (Was Re: Involvement with a married woman ALWAYS immoral?, soc.singles, Usenet:

  It seems to me that in this discussion of polyamory and monoamory (?) is that those who praise polyamory and those who praise monoamory have different views of what love is. At least for me, on those few occasions when I have been in love, being in love with one woman meant not having any romantic interest in/sexual attraction to any other woman.

• 1999 September 11, "piranha" (username), Poly Movies, alt.polyamory, Usenet:

  IMO it is, just a very bad one, with lousy communication, and lies and cheating. it's no better IMO than if her spouse had never known of the secondary. it's definitely not monoamory, she loves both of the people, but she has lousy skills at handling herself in the situation.

• 2006, Leslie Heywood, The women's movement today: an encyclopedia of third-wave feminism (→ISBN)

  These ideological messages include compulsory heterosexuality, monoamory, racism, ableism, and sexism and the idea that having more things makes people better.

early mentiony citations

• 1992 August 20, Michael Short, Polyamory and Marriage, alt.polyamory, Usenet:

  Personally, my history of relationships has been strictly monogamous, and so a lot of what's posted here is new to me. -Excuse me please- since this group is 'polyamory', ‘monoamory’ would be the proper opposite; though I've read several posts which seem in the 'monogamous vs. polyamorous' vein. Or is there any real distinction between these words (topic for another thread!)

• 1999 January 7, John Williams, polyamory, monoamory, in alt.usage.english.neologism, Usenet:

  polyamory isn't very new, but monogamy isn't a sufficient word today, so: monoamory.

  • Brian Watson, replying (January 8):

    "Being faithful" would seem to cover it without too much additional effort.

    --

    Brian

    • John Williams, replying (January 8):

      polyamory has nothing to do with being unfaithful.

      monoamory has nothing to do with being faithful.

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      • Bert Clanton, replying (January 10):

        Maybe "monoamory" is already current usage, but I don't like it. I don't like it because I prefer to leave off the final vowel in a prefix when the main part of the word begins with a vowel: e.g., "monarchy" rather than "monoarchy".

        Hence I prefer "monamory" rather than "monoamory", "monandrous" rather than "monoandrous", "monatomic" rather than "monoatomic".

        Of course, "psychoanalysis" violates my rule, but there's nothing I can do about it at this late date.

        Best wishes,

        Bert