When you lead with story instead of education, then it becomes absorbed emotionally and intuitively so you don't really have to explain things. I don't think people respond as well to being transplained.
2018 August 16, Athel Cornish-Bowden, “Re: non-binary gender pronoun confusion”, in alt.usage.english[1] (Usenet):
[>> These styles don't signal maleness *now*, because enough women have insisted on using them, often in order to be seen as equals in male-dominated workplaces. It was a big theme in 2nd wave (1970s) feminism.] [> There you go again, mansplaining what women think.] Transsplaining, innit?
The “they” I’m referring to is not transgender people. (Though the bullies will pretend that it is.) I’m referring to the “trans activists” — some sinister, most joyless, and more than a few who don’t even identify as transgender themselves — who delight in “transplaining” to the rest of us the rules of this new, glittering utopia, where spaces must be shared, safeguards dismantled, disagreement decreed to be hate speech, and women must not be allowed to gather to discuss laws that will affect them.
The way the queer community is depicted throws both Adam and the audience into the deep end. It’s totally uncompromised and not ‘transplained’ for a big audience. I really believe in not watering down depictions of trans and queer storylines. The audience needs to catch up, wherever they may be.
2020, Gerard Casey, After #MeToo: Feminism, Patriarchy, Toxic Masculinity and Sundry Cultural Delights, unnumbered page:
By the nature of the construction of this stable of terms, you cannot have blacksplaining, transplaining, homsplaining and poorsplaining because the power differential only runs downhill, as it were, never uphill.
2021, Cole Escola, quoted in Meredith Blake, "Contains Multitudes", Los Angeles Times, 21 January 2021:
"It's all about the lens to me," Escola continues. "A lot of culture and art is created with the straight audience in mind, gay-splaining and transsplaining to a straight audience. Like, 'We are human. Look, we cry just like regular people! And you're a good person because you cried when we cried.'"
2021, Nora Johnson, "Lost In Translation: A Language In Its Own World", EuroWeekly News, 23 September 2021 - 29 September 2021, page 46:
And as for 'community' - a group of people whom leftie politicians wrongly believe share the same beliefs, aspirations and vulnerabilities - one such is a 'trans(gender) activist' acquaintance. When he/she bangs on about how absolutely everything is transphobic, I describe it as 'transplaining'.
And with a 'mantle' as a visible trans performer, [Jordan] Gray embraces 'transplaining. My remit in life is being incredibly accessible. My audience is a broad, Middle England one; people that maybe don't necessarily know what they're looking at. If, by the end, they go, "fair play, I could go for a pint with you", then I've succeeded'.
2022, Mar Fournier Pereira, "Dissident Epistemologies: Dialogues around an Affective Research Experience", Journal of International Women's Studies, Volume 23, Issue 2 (2022), page 48:
Transplaining their World: A Brief Discussion of the Results
On the Communitarian Pedagogy of Gender
Verb: "to explain trans issues to a trans person as a cis person; to cissplain"
One critic accused Wilkes of “transplaining and quite possibly mansplaining”. The person said it was “disgraceful” to suggest that they were “stifling debate” by refusing to “engage or ‘debate’ my identity and very core of who I am with those who actively refuse to accept that”.
2022, Patrice Oppliger, Transmasculinity on Television, unnumbered page:
Cis savior characters are those who step in to help alleviate a transgender person's suffering while putting themselves at the center. They often act as if they know more about transgender issues than the transgender character themselves, going so far as transplaining.
Let me transplain. In our India we should know these things, otherwise everything will be lost. No, "toot jayega" means "it will break." Whatever. Here begins your first scripture lesson.
2020, Jolanta Warzycka, "Translating Finger(tip)", in Retranslating Joyce for the 21st Century (eds. Erika Mihálycsa & Jolanta Wawrzycka), page 146:
Joyce's superb economy of expression and rhythmic resonance are frequently a casualty of narrative/interpretive transsplaining or verbose overdetermination.
1932, Marion I. Newbigin, Southern Europe, page 168:
The heavy winter transplain passenger traffic which results from the search by northerners for warmth and sunshine helps to pay for the cost of railway construction (cf. the new Cuneo-Ventimiglia route, p. 154), and also in part compensates for the loss due to the nature of the goods traffic.
1985, John K. Hulmston, "Transplain Migration: The Church Trains in Mormon Immigration, 1861-1868", thesis submitted to Utah State University, page 5:
With the organizational apparatus completed, the church moved quickly to formulate companies for the transplain migration both to and from the Missouri River.