exulansis

English

Etymology

Coined by American author and neologist John Koenig, creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, from Latin exulāns (“exiling; exile, wanderer”) +‎ -sis (suffix forming nouns of condition).

Noun

exulansis (uncountable)

1. (neologism, rare) Resignation to stop talking about an experience, because others cannot relate to it.
   • 2019 August 22, Sara Beam, Emily Dial-Driver, Rilla Askew, Juliet Evusa, Voices from the Heartland: Volume II, University of Oklahoma Press, →ISBN, page 154:

     I am constantly struck by overwhelming feelings of exulansis—the inability to properly articulate one's reasons and feelings—when I try to convince friends or strangers that I objectively experienced noteworthy sufferings at a young age […]

   • 2021 March 1, Engin Yurt, From Phenomenon Labyrinths To Midnights of Zugzwangs Or Missing Apparitions in Yūgen Recordings I, Elya Yayıncılık, →ISBN, page 81:

     […] This unloved giving-in to exulansis behaves as […]

   • 2023 April 18, Jana Louise Smit, How to Kill an Earworm: And 500+ Other Psychology Facts You Need to Know, Simon and Schuster, →ISBN, page 149:

     This frustration, which is called “exulansis,” happens when you talk to someone about an important experience but then realize that they cannot relate to or understand what you went through. Most people at the receiving end of exulansis […]