shy bairns get nowt
- (Geordie) If you're too shy, or don't ask, you will not get what you want.
2007, “Rob [Rob has a Six-year-old Son who was Infected with Cytomegalovirus as a Baby]”, in Jill Harrison, Matthew Henderson, and Rob Leonard, editors, Different Dads: Fathers’ Stories of Parenting Disabled Children, London; Philadelphia, Pa.: Jessica Kingsley Publishers, ISBN 978-1-84310-454-4, page 37:
- Ask questions, enquire, and push for more information and care. As the saying goes in the north-east, ‘shy bairns get nowt’! Know your rights and what you are entitled to by pushing and not taking no for an answer.
2011, John Marrin, “Ten Tips on Taking the Lead”, in Leadership for Dummies (For Dummies Series), Chichester, West Sussex: John Wiley, ISBN 978-0-470-97211-3, page 297:
- An old Geordie saying says: ‘Shy bairns get nowt!’ It literally means ‘shy children get nothing’, but is used to emphasise that people should speak up for themselves. I think that this saying applies to leaders.
The proverb is used widely in the North East of England, United Kingdom, to encourage children to speak up and not to be too shy. However, it may also be used to imply that an adult is too shy or unassertive.